Author: William Blake
How To Avoid the “I Want” Syndrome
Friday, July 4th, 2008 @ 2:39 am
Children are known for lighting up the lives of everyone around them with their gentle spirits. That same gentle spirit, however, can turn quite violent when a child complains because he wants something. For parents trying to handle children affected by the all too well known I Want syndrome, the tips in this article should prove useful.
Complaining is not cute behavior and parents must learn that it should not be tolerated or rewarded. Throwing a temper tantrum because they cant have a certain toy from a store should not be considered a cute phase that the child just happens to be passing through. Indulging the child to end the embarrassment of a public tantrum is not helpful either.
Children learn quickly. A child that discovers they can get what they want by acting out will do it again and again. “The monster” is born. Setting them on this course makes it harder to break the habit as they age.
Give them an allowance. Children naturally think that our money is also their money, and to a certain extent they are right. We provide for their well-being by purchasing food and clothing. We pay the mortgage so that they have a roof over their heads. But this doesn’t entitle them to act like we are a genie in a bottle.
An allowance gives kids something they never had before: their own money. A child that understands money will be fascinated. As the money grows from week to week, share with them how saving money allows them to afford toys that they buy themselves.
Watch your spending habits. Children mimic what they see. If their parents buy everything that they want, the child will likely want to do the same. Include your children in the family budget. Convene a family meeting once a month to discuss the financial picture.
Learning that money doesnt grow on trees is a vital lesson. When parents teach their children about how saving money will work out to their own benefit, the kids get a step ahead in life. Parents can explain how saving money helps the entire family. For example, the family must save to go on vacations.
Children will always want things; its part of who they are. But they can be taught to be less greedy and share with others if parents teach them well. When children are still young and their allowance is small, let them spend their money at the dollar store.
Television commercials prompt kids to ask about the latest doll or a monster truck. Don’t blow them off by saying,”We will see about it later.” Kids will take that as an affirmative answer. Instead, offer the idea of putting that toy on their Christmas or birthday wish list. Even better, encourage them to save and buy it with their own money.
By applying these tips, children can be helped to understand that, though they may want everything they see, life simply doesnt work that way. Helping children to become financially responsible so early in life is a priceless gift.
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